Relationship

From Summer Romance to Real Relationship

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When summer comes on suddenly, so do relationships. We look forward to this season of growth so that our human bonds can blossom equally. In terms of love relationships, summer is a prime time for new encounters and fresh romance. But mere enthusiasm and lack of commitment will cause a fling to fall apart in the long run. Apply these suggestions so that your next affair forms into a loving, durable relationship: See beyond the season. Don’t look at a budding relationship as a temporary fling, because you will turn it into that. A relationship may have good chances to flourish, but if you continue to regard it as a fling, you will stifle its potential and create unnecessary boundaries. Give a good fling a chance to thrive beyond the summer months and into the years ahead. Allow it to become what it’s meant to become. A healthy human bond does not come with an expiration date, but it does come with a predestined reason. The best way to decipher the long-term fate of a love relationship is to answer the question, What lesson has this person come into my life to teach me? Pick authenticity over

See beyond the season. Don’t look at a budding relationship as a temporary fling, because you will turn it into that. A relationship may have good chances to flourish, but if you continue to regard it as a fling, you will stifle its potential and create unnecessary boundaries. Give a good fling a chance to thrive beyond the summer months and into the years ahead. Allow it to become what it’s meant to become. A healthy human bond does not come with an expiration date, but it does come with a predestined reason. The best way to decipher the long-term fate of a love relationship is to answer the question, What lesson has this person come into my life to teach me?

Pick authenticity over attraction. A person can come across awfully tempting in the beginning, but don’t let first impressions fool you. Anyone can put on a “show” to get what they want from you, then quickly disappear, disappoint, or deceive you once you’ve given them what they wanted. Opt for a person who is brimming with authenticity over momentary excitement. Don’t cross obvious red flags. You will be given plenty of early warning signs if a person is a pathological cheater, emotional abuser, commitment-phobe, etc. Pay attention, for your own sake.

Perform your inner work. It could be summer–or the end of the world for that matter–but if you’re not ready for a relationship, your fling won’t last. Before you can begin any new affair, you must perform your inner work: forgive others, clear your karma, and eradicate negative emotions. Once there is balance and harmony within yourself, you will attract a relationship of reflective qualities.

Make peace with the past. The first action to take is to introspect honestly: What baggage am I carrying from my past? Do I harbor any resentment, anger, or bitterness towards an old partner? Have I received closure from all former relationships? From there, the steps to take come into clarity. Remember to detach from your past in order to pursue this relationship in the future.

Understand what you need. So as not to hurt anyone (including yourself), understand what it is that you need before seeking a suitor: do you just want to have fun, have a family, or have something in-between? If you genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship, don’t start a summer romance with a person who craves commitment. Similarly, if you’re keen on embarking on a serious relationship, don’t settle for a person whose dedication can only last a few nights. Know also that what you want and what you need can be two totally different things: you might want to be single and party, but you might need a real relationship to nurture your personal growth and help you evolve as a person. Once you have a good grasp on your desires, you can proceed accordingly.

Summer is the perfect time to initiate new relationships. And when we become open to extending a summer romance into the future, we might just run into

Perform your inner work. It could be summer–or the end of the world for that matter–but if you’re not ready for a relationship, your fling won’t last. Before you can begin any new affair, you must perform your inner work: forgive others, clear your karma, and eradicate negative emotions. Once there is balance and harmony within yourself, you will attract a relationship of reflective qualities. Make peace with the past. The first action to take is to introspect honestly: What baggage am I carrying from my past? Do I harbor any resentment, anger, or bitterness towards an old partner? Have I received closure from all former relationships? From there, the steps to take come into clarity. Remember to detach from your past in order to pursue this relationship in the future. Understand what you need. So as not to hurt anyone (including yourself), understand what it is that you need before seeking a suitor: do you just want to have fun, have a family, or have something in-between? If you genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship, don’t start a summer romance with a person who craves commitment. Similarly, if you’re keen on embarking on a serious relationship, don’t settle for a person whose dedication can only last a few nights. Know also that what you want and what you need can be two totally different things: you might want to be single and party, but you might need a real relationship to nurture your personal growth and help you evolve as a person. Once you have a good grasp on your desires, you can proceed accordingly. Summer is the perfect time to initiate new relationships. And when we become open to extending a summer romance into the future, we might just run into romance of the authentic kind. To summer and love, Dr. Carmen Harra & Alexandra

To summer and love, Dr. Carmen Harra & Alexandra

Dr. Carmen Harra & Alexandra Harra

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