How to Find Dates in Los Angeles: Naughty Travel Guide to Naughty Cities

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If you’re single, quit complaining about how you can’t seem to meet someone because you’re too busy working and you don’t like meeting people at bars. Whoever said the only way to meet someone is at a bar? There are TONS of ways to meet people, especially if you live in a lively city like Los Angeles. Listed below are plenty of dating opportunities out there to help you meet new people and possibly your future date. By trying something new you’ll be putting yourself out there, which is essential if you’re in the market for finding that special person or maybe even just someone to keep you warm at night. Check out these singles and dating clubs in the Los Angeles area, and find out what’s around your own corner.



Easily one of LA’s most hip and happening singles networks, SingularCity is different in that they celebrate single people, instead of thinking they all have to be matched up. Some of us are very happy being single, and don’t necessarily want to be married off or paired up faster than a pair of socks out of the laundry. We want to have fun, meet new people, especially hot guys, but we enjoy our independence, too. SingularCity offers a network of similar, unmarried people, who are happy being independent, but who want to meet new people and have a good time. You can create a profile page, write your own blog, keep an eye on SingularCity’s numerous monthly events, RSVP online, and swap reviews afterwards. Great for expanding your social network, and enjoying some amazing times with no strings attached. Savvy singles only, need apply


This is like a speed dating club, where you go along and are given six minutes to chat to various guys, then decide if you want to get to know them a little better. It’s free to register and attend, and they have regular get-togethers, usually midweek, so it’s nice and handy and won’t clash with any weekend socials you might have planned. It’s discreet, friendly, and a whole heap of fun, and it’s containable, too, so there will only be around a dozen guys in attendance, ensuring everybody gets close attention. They also hold occasional lock and key events, too, where guys are given keys and have to match them with the various locks held by us girls. Great ice breaker.

Table For Six

This dating club has one of the largest databases of single professionals in California. The premise, is that you fill in their online profile, so they can match you with someone compatible. Then, you’ll join five other singles for dinner – two more girls and three guys. All checks are kept separate, so there won’t even be any arguing over who pays for what. This way, there’s no one-on-one pressure, no awkwardness, no intimidating silences, and you get to meet five new friends of both sexes. You can get a whole lot more than a follow-up date using this concept, you’ll expand your social circle, and be able to completely relax in the company of other, like-minded people. One of the best dating solutions out there. Be yourself.

Balboa Ski & Sports Club

If you love outdoor sports and want to meet someone who likes the same, you might want to check out this site. They run ski trips from LA out to Colorado, Utah, Montana, even to Europe. They also organize beach volleyball closer to home, tennis, scuba diving, running days, river rafting, you name it! All members are over 21, and comprise mainly professionals and entrepreneurs from the Orange County area. Skiing is the primary activity, and the club run regular excursions to Mammoth for long weekends. Regular meetings take place every other Tuesday, around 6.30pm.

Young Active Professionals

This is a free website which, although not exclusive to singles, is a great place to meet new friends. Both singles and couples are welcome, and they have clubs all over the US, not just in Los Angeles, all run by volunteers. Members are aged between 20s and 40s and the focus is on making friends, and sharing interests such as eating out, cinema, book clubs, nightlife and outdoor activities. Their website has a great interactive forum where you can chat to members before meeting up – some people find it easier to connect online before physically meeting – and their calendar is always packed full of events. One of LA’s hippest friend-making sites.


This dating club boasts a success rate of 90%, based around speed dating. Interested people go onto the website and check out the calendar of parties in their area, then purchase their tickets online and show up at the venue (usually a hip bar or restaurant). You’ll be shown to the first guy to chat to, with between three and six minutes to chat to each of them. The idea is that you’ll talk to everybody there (and use your scorecard to keep track of them) but, of course, if you hit it off with that special someone, then there’s nothing to stop you both going off to get to know each other a little better somewhere else! Traditional speed-dating, in a non-threatening atmosphere. You must be aged at least 21.

SpeedLA Dating

One of LA’s most famous, and trusted, dating sites, SpeedLA Dating was set up by a London girl in 2007, and has since gone on to big things, and is frequently featured on TV. They’re a sophisticated bunch, who believe that the better you feel about yourself, the more attractive you’ll be to the opposite sex. Girls get a free makeover when we attend SpeedLA Dating events, and they always lay on great snacks in stylish venues across Los Angeles. There are two core elements – speed dating and matchmaking. For speed dating, choose your event online, buy the tickets, then show up half an hour earlier, for your complimentary makeover. Then you’ll be introduced to loads of hot guys (no name tags, don’t worry…), and you don’t have to move a muscle, as all the guys come to you. Your British host brings a touch of chicness to proceedings, so this is one of the more elegant speed dating events in LA. For the braver singles out there, there is the matchmaking, where the SpeedLA Dating team will have you fill out a comprehensive profile about yourself, plus what you’re looking for in that perfect partner. They’ll set up every element of your blind date, and they claim a very high match rate. Let someone else do the work, and let SpeedLA Dating find your perfect partner.


A speed dating company who organize regular events throughout LA. Meet up to 25 gorgeous guys or girls in one night, then decide later if you’d like to see any of them again. They have lots of different themed nights, including Jewish Singles, and Men & Women, so if you want to refine down the types of people you want to meet, this club is ideal. They also have an online dating service, if you prefer to hunt from the comfort of your armchair.

Super Single Mixers

This club is especially for those aged 40-60, and hosts a variety of events, from speed dating evenings, to Unlock Parties. You can go alone, or with friends, and the point is to expand your social circle, and perhaps find love while you’re doing it. The parties are legendary, with DJs, food and drink, psychic readings, foot massages, and lots of dancing. If you’re extrovert, or just like something a bit different, and would like to meet like-minded people, this is the club for you. Your hostess, ex-stand up comic, Rookie MacPherson, is a lively, energetic greeter who will ensure you’ll have a night to remember.

Fast Life

Speed dating specialists who know how hard it is for young, busy professionals to meet others the same. You can meet up to a dozen guys on one of their evening events, and everything’s really classy, so you’ll feel instantly in the mood the moment you step into the venue. Members fill in their profile online, and then be invited to special events, where the others in attendance have been chosen based on their compatibility to you. It’s better than other speed dating events, which tend to be quite random. At Fast Life, they’ve already done most of the matching before you arrive, so your chances of finding that special someone are increased massively. Join online today.

Local Wine Events

For the more discerning single person, this is a food and wine club where anybody can submit an event or festival, and ask others to come along. It’s not a singles club, as such, but if you love good wine, then it’s the perfect site from which to search out events near you where you’re likely to bump into other, single, wine lovers. It’s global, so you might have to do a bit of searching before finding something in your area, but if you do meet someone sexy at one of these events, then you already know you have one thing in common…

No Flake Singles LA

If you’re a bit tired of all the usual dating sites and clubs on the LA scene, then these guys reckon they do things a bit differently. Dedicated to making their singles events lively and fun, you could find yourself taking part in anything from wine tastings and dining out, to hiking and art exhibitions. Their mission is to get everybody interacting – not just talking, but dancing, playing sport, anything that gets people socializing. They’re serious about you being serious, hence the name, so once you join, you’re committed to becoming one of the gang.

Highlife Adventures

High octane, high adrenaline singles club who specialize in organizing outdoor activities for singles in the LA area. Whether it’s parachute jumping, white water rafting, yachting, flying, horseback riding or even dance lessons, there’s never a dull moment. Meet people who have a similar obsession with adrenaline rushes and see if there’s someone you wouldn’t mind jumping out of a plane with. It gets you away from the boring old bar routine, or dinner dating, and puts you straight into the heart of the action. It’s totally non-awkward, completely hassle-free, and is a great place to make new friends, even if it doesn’t lead to romance. Just knowing that everybody else there is single, is bonus enough.

VIP Social Events

Cranking up the class are these guys, who specialize in organizing elite, VIP events for stylish LA singles. They always host their events in fun atmospheres, usually high end bars and restaurants, and members are usually young, enthusiastic professionals who just don’t have the time to organize their own social diaries, so VIP Social Events does it for them. A favorite event, is their Unlock The Night events. Guys get a lock, girls get a key, and the girls have to go out and find their match. It’s a great way of breaking the ice and getting talking to someone. All you have to do is sign up to their website, input your details, and let them organize and event around your own busy diary. Easy.

Two For Drinks

This upmarket dating club is dedicated to young professionals in the Los Angeles area, offering personal matchmaking, and takes the chore out of finding a great date for the night. Sign up, fill in your profile online, and wait for them to match you to the perfect LA gent. They have personal dating consultants on hand to make sure everybody is properly screened. Everything you tell them is confidential and personal, and there have been a fair few marriages spawned by Two For Drinks’ expertise in matchmaking…

Catch Matchmaking

A multi-tasking dating site, Catch Matchmaking offer different ways of finding love. Firstly, you can simply sign up to their Date-A-Base and hope to get matched from the thousands of guys on their files. Alternatively, try the video dating service, and see your potential dates in the virtual flesh, before making your decision about whether or not to meet them. Also, you can let the team at Catch personally match you with that special someone. They are experts, and get it right pretty much all of the time. They also run an events calendar, and host Singles Events across the LA area every month.

Lock And Key Events

These events are some of the most popular singles nights in LA. As with most lock and key date nights, the guys are given keys and have to go around to find the lock it fits, with you, the hot single girl, holding each lock. It’s a really fun way to get talking to people and, usually mixed with a happy hour, a brilliant way of unwinding. They are large events, with up to 200 people attending each one, so you’ll have plenty of guys to choose from. Each time you get unlocked, you’ll be entered into a prize draw, so you could end up winning more than just a second date. There’s no pressure, everybody’s really friendly, and you can even go with some single girlfriends, to guarantee you all have something to talk about later. Join their emailing list to make sure you’re the first to find out about events in your area.

Cupid’s Coach

Marketing themselves as a short cut to finding love in Los Angeles, Cupid’s Coach offers a premier e-dating service that includes a personal, one-on-one phone call to find out more about you, and to give the Cupid team a chance to properly match you with somebody. They’re LA-based, and they know the city and its single inhabitants inside out, so they’re a good to bet for finding the right match for you. They also hold events out in the ‘real world’, so it’s worth popping along to find out what it’s all about. These guys have won lots of awards for their matchmaking prowess, so you’ll be in safe hands.

Active Singles Adventures

Based in southern Cali, this is a singles club that focuses on getting its members out and about on outdoor adventures. They do events five times a week, including scuba diving, kayaking, skydiving, rollerblading and snow skiing. It’s the largest sports-oriented dating club in California so they’re pretty clued up. The average age of members is around 47, but cater for anybody over 30, so you can be sure there are lots of energetic, single professionals just waiting to be matched up. There’s an annual joining fee, or you pay monthly, and you also get a quarterly newsletter to keep you informed of events in your area.

Confidential Christian Introductions

For committed Christians who might feel limited in their chances of meeting fellow, single Christians, there’s the Confidential Christian Introductions dating site. It’s important to meet people who are on the same wavelength as you, so these guys have taken all the work away from you, and provide events and online profiling to make it easier for you to meet guys with similar interests to you. You don’t have to be a member to go to one of their comedy nights, or dances, and they also do spectacular cruise vacations and themed cabaret nights. Talk to them about the type of person you want to meet, and they’ll do the rest. Or just go along to one of their events and see what happens.

Ventura County Fast Dating

Speed dating events at local bars and restaurants in Ventura County. Traditional and successful speed dating for different age groups, where you can meet dozens of hot guys in one night. Book your ticket, turn up, then spend around 5 minutes chatting to each guy there, and it’s up to you to decide which ones you’d like to get to know better. The company also hold monthly group outings, doing activities like hiking, bowling, dinner and a movie, and bar crawls.  Check out their website!


GOT stands for “Get Out There”, in Orange County, and they’re very sport-oriented, especially if it’s to do with the Anaheim Ducks! They have around 4,000 fun-loving members, who partake in activities like comedy nights, trips to the Discovery Science Center, K1 Speed and, of course, games at the Anaheim Ducks and Anaheim Angels. Little get-togethers in local bars and restaurants are also regular occurrences, and their House Of 80s music nights always get booked up fast. Probably best suited to late 30s-40s, because they really are obsessed with the 80s here! You don’t have to be single to join their events, and it’s great for just meeting new people, but if you’re into sports, 80s music, and generally having a ball, this is one of LA’s funkier social clubs.

Los Angeles Asian Singles Meetup Group

With around 1200 members, this LA meetup group is growing every month. It’s aimed specifically at Asian singles who want to meet other Asian singles, either for love, or just to have some fun. They have a good online base, where members can arrange events amongst themselves. Previous activities include rollerblading, hiking, rafting and BBQ parties. Basically, you get chatting with other members, and get proactive in organizing your own events. That way, chances are you’ll meet people who obviously share the same interests as you. Good fun, and easy to get started on.

Single Ski Club

As the name suggests, this club is for single ski enthusiasts, who want to meet similar sporty people. Based in Culver City/Marina del Rey, they already have over 100 members, and usually organize trips out to Mammoth Mountain, or anywhere where there’s snow! They also organize occasional international trips, so members can spend more time with each other and get to know one another more intimately. When there’s no snow around, they’ll organize other events, such as wine tasting, hiking, concerts, dinners and golfing. Meetings usually take place on the first Wednesday of the month, in the Galaxy Room at Marina City Club. There are also various membership perks, anything from a free trip in a flight simulator, to heavily discounted ski transportation and equipment hire.


The ultimate in speed dating, Fastdater has been going for over 12 years and holds regular events in the LA area. At each event, you get to chat to each single guy for 3 minutes, then mark each of them down as a “yes” or “no”. The guys do the same. Any matches, and you’re notified afterwards, often as quickly as just 2 hours later. Then, it’s up to you how the second date goes…

Fastdater also offers a telephone dating coach service with the company’s founder, Lisa Lombardi, which can really help with your dating dilemmas. There are also travel trips run by Fastdater, which include cruises and adventure trips.

Jewish Singles Meeting Place

Aimed at the 40-50s Jewish market, this is a site that offers to match you up with other Jews. During High Holidays (September), they host special singles events at the High Holiday Meeting Place, on the site of the former Temple Beth Kodesh. Outside High Holidays, the group meets at Valley Beth Shalom, or holds events around the greater Los Angeles area at various restaurants and movie theaters. Check out the website for further details.

The Wailers Ski Club

Another ski-centric singles club, this adult social group is active all the year round, but not everything is about the skiing. They meet on the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month at the Burbank Bar & Grille, and other, off-site activities include ski trips to Mammoth Mountain, and various wild parties and ski races. If you love the outdoors, love skiing, love adventure, and love meeting new people, this is definitely the club for you. They do a lot of work for charity and other good causes, too.

Parents Without Partners

Dedicated to helping single parents find companionship and love, this group also involves the children, in a variety of social events and classes, designed to bring people together, and also educate in parenting techniques. They have several chapters in California, and members’ ages range from 18 to 80. While not really a singles club, as such, it can be a vital source of communication and social contact for single parents. Depending on where you live, you’ll find many events going on, and there’s a Member Reward program which includes discounts at names like Disney, Macy’s, AMC Theaters and Sprint.

Three Day Rule

Quality and upmarket online dating site, that is very particular about its members, and has excellent screening and matching facilities. They’re very much aimed towards young professionals, and their ‘dating pool’ is high end and extremely well chosen. Three Day Rule are affiliated to several other partners, to enable its members to enjoy discounts from some well known entertainment and lifestyle brands. You’ll be sent a daily list of compatible matches, and there are plenty of off-site activities and events hosted by the company, so you can mingle with like-minded singles in the real world, too. Check their website regularly for the latest events in your area.

The Stir – Events by Match.com

Match.com is the world’s biggest dating site, so it makes sense that they now offer localized singles events for your area. In LA, there are happy hours, cookery classes, wine tasting, dance lessons, bowling nights and even events for pet owners. The events are held several times a month under the monikor “The Stir”, so keep an eye on the website, or check your local listings papers for new dates for the diary.

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