Mistakes To Avoid When Making Friends
Whoever said that making friends was easy was lying! Yes, some of us are lucky enough to meet people and just click with them instantly but this does not happen for everyone. With that being said, in this blog post, we are going to give you a few pointers to help you out. However, instead of telling you what you should be doing, we are going to focus on what you definitely should not be doing. So, let’s take a look at the mistakes to avoid when making new friends…
Investing your time in the wrong people – This is a mistake that a lot of people tend to make when they are young because they want to have as many friends as possible. However, the older we get, we realise just how precious our time is. After all, we only have so much time available and we only have so much money to spend on doing fun things, and so you want to make sure you invest your time and money wisely in the right kind of friendships. Don’t waste your time on people who are riddled with envy, toxic, draining, and friendships that are unreciprocated. This guide to making friends is a good resource regarding this. Not only do these relationships take a toll on our well-being and mental health but they rob us of the chance to form more mutually beneficial and supportive friendships. It should always be about quality over quantity. Invest your heart wisely.
Not being true to yourself – This is another mistake that many people are guilty of when trying to make friends. It is easy to act in the way you think you ‘should’ act because you want to try and impress. However, you should be yourself. Stop getting caught up in self-imposed rules. If someone does not like you for who you are, why would you want to be friends with them anyway? By being yourself, you will attract people who like you for you – people with similar interests. You should find hobbies and activities that reflect your true interests. Try to avoid the pressure of feeling like you need to be someone you are not.
Over relying on social media and technology – In the digital age, we seem to use our phones to do everything, from paying our bills to checking our bank balances. We even make friends over the Internet too. Using apps to meet friends is not a bad thing but your friendships should not be solely digital. No amount of email threading, text messaging, and meme tagging can substitute real-life interactions. It can be easy to fall into the trap of simply talking to your friends on the likes of Facebook and WhatsApp, and not meeting in person. However, human interactions are pivotal for everyone’s health and well-being, and they are critical for maintaining a good friendship.
Overlooking yourself – Giving another person space so that they can talk about themselves is a good idea. After all, most people do love the sound of their own voice. However, this does not mean that you should disappear from the conversation. You need to show up and own your place in the discussion you are having. Sharing your favourite perspectives, experiences, and activities will give you the opportunity to figure out if you have interests and personalities that are compatible. Moreover, opening up about something personal (not something deeply personal – just something small, like your favourite TV show) can enable you to communicate that you trust someone to react to your opinions without judging you. This is the way you put the building blocks of closeness and trust in place.
Failing to moderate your excitement or interest – Finally, there is no denying that finding someone you click with can be difficult. This makes it exciting when you find a new friend. However, being too enthusiastic can give off the wrong message. You need to reign it in so that you do not come across too strong.
So there you have it – some of the mistakes you need to avoid when making new friends. If you can stay away from the errors that have been discussed above, you can ensure that you make good friends and you do not waste your time on people who are not worth it.