How to bounce back from a breakup
It is a fact that breakups are painful. No one ever really wishes to have one unless they are suffering in the relationship. The pain is even more if you are the one who was dumped. During such moments, it is so easy for feelings of unworthiness and bitterness to creep up and suffocate you. Most people are at their lowest after a breakup and it is easy for them to do something drastic. While most people do not believe it, it is possible to get through a breakup without other people even noticing. Below are some tips that can help you with this:
Take some time out to love you
When one is in love, really in love, they tend to sacrifice a lot to see their partner happy. People are willing to go to great extents, giving up even their hobbies for those that they love. When that person is no longer there, it is possible to feel lost and unable to continue with your life. This is because, with time, you give up so much that sometimes, you end up losing yourself in it. When you are nursing a breakup, it might be healthy for you to remind yourself of who you are; the things that you used to enjoy before you fell in love. Bring back your hobbies to life and love yourself, with time you will be able to fill the void that the person left in you.
Surround yourself with love
So, your girlfriend broke up with you? You must have felt betrayed and unloved. It is totally understandable if you feel like isolating yourself from love for fear that you might be betrayed again. While this might be a short term mechanism to cope, in the long run, it becomes destructive to you and those around you. Instead of shutting people up, the best way to deal with a broken heart is opening yourself to love. Take this time to hang out with your besties who are always down with you. Friends will always be sympathetic and loving towards you. It is good to take some time, be with them and appreciate the genuine love they still have for you. This will remind you that there are those that still care about you.
Shun social media for a while
In today’s era of social media, there is always a temptation to want to see what your ex is up to. Thus, in most cases, only ends up exacerbating the breakup. They might move on quickly and even get into other relationships. Seeing them happy with other people will only intensify the pain that you feel. While you really don’t have to necessarily block them from your social sites, you may want to avoid them for some time until you have made peace with the fact that the two of you are no longer together.
The above are just a few of the many tips that will help you get through a breakup. The most important thing to do is to ensure that you do not harbor the pain inside. Get someone to talk to, preferably someone who knows you really well. Drain the bitter feelings for you to start healing. Don’t rush to get into another relationship until you have made peace with the breakup.