5 Reasons Why Your New Relationships Never Work
Are you tired of being left heartbroken or frustrated by seeing promising dates lead to dead ends? You’re not alone.
In truth, that probably offers very little emotional comfort. Worse still, if you keep following the same processes, it’s likely that the same results will occur time and time again. Therefore, understanding the reasons behind your heartache is essential. Here are the most common answers.
You’re Not Ready
It is very difficult to find happiness with someone else if you haven’t first unlocked self-happiness. Therefore, you need to focus on self-development and regaining control of personal goals. A morning journal can help you reflect, plan, and organize your lifestyle. Whether it’s progress in your career or getting your home life under control doesn’t matter. Those steps towards better organization in your life will give future relationships a far better shot at success. If nothing else, if a relationship fails, you’ll know that problems were rooted by incompatibility.
Not Spending Enough Time Together
Even if you believe in love at first sight, it takes time for relationships to grow. Finding time in your schedules for each other is vital at every stage of a relationship. However, it is particularly important in its infancy. Otherwise, the opportunities to develop stronger feelings are restricted. Self-doubts will creep in too. It’s important to balance your time and see friends. After all, spending too much time together can get the relationship off to a bad start and set unrealistic expectations.
Listening To Others
There’s nothing wrong with seeking relationship advice or getting a friend’s opinion on a new partner. However, there are times where you need to trust your gut instincts. Googling signs that a partner is cheating or isn’t interested in you will normally plant a seed of doubt in your mind. Even if the relationship is actually heading in the right direction. Friends and relatives may give bad advice because they are looking out for you. Likewise, jealous colleagues may knowingly offer the wrong tips.
Connections To Exes
We all know that exes are exes for a reason. However, social media and digital communications make it difficult to erase them from your mind. Even when there is no intention to start a relationship, mixing your past and present will harm the future. Deleting all links to your ex-partner is vital (unless you share a child) if you want to give a new partner your undivided attention. It may feel a little strange at the very beginning, but you’ll soon see that it’s for the best.
You’re Chasing The Wrong Thing
Even if you’re ready for a relationship, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are ready to move in with someone or start a family. Therefore, you need to be honest with yourself in regards to your immediate, mid-term, and long-term goals. If you keep entering relationships with people that have different life plans in place, it will inevitably lead to disaster. Meeting someone that shares similar views won’t guarantee success. Still, it removes a significant obstacle. In turn, the probability of things working out are drastically increased.
Last but not least, you need to stop worrying. It’ll happen when it happens.