The Real Things Men Need To Learn On Being Told They’re Going To Become A Parent

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It is the shock to the system that can jolt us in so many different ways. Being told that you are about to embark on the adventure of parenthood can mean you may not feel ready for it. But for so many men out there that, on being given this news, it’s the opportunity to start on the road to a new life. Naturally, it can seem like that we are not ready for this challenge but because becoming a parent is, in many ways, about growing up, it doesn’t mean that you have to lose all semblance of who you are. With this in mind, what are the things that every man needs in place when they’re about to become a parent?

Putting Your Safety Helmet On

One of the biggest concerns many people have when they are about to become parents if they have what it takes but a lot of it is down to the fact that we can stress so much about external circumstances. It can feel that babies are ticking time bombs and that there are potential threats everywhere. Not only this, but you might feel that there are just some things you are ill-prepared for. You might not feel you know how to handle bedwetting or problems in your child’s life because, in many ways, you still feel like a child yourself. So the logical approach for many is to panic and treat everything and everyone as a threat. But rather than having this approach to parenting, it’s important to problem solve and have a mindset towards safety so that you can control circumstances. We have to remember that children can bump their heads a lot, and this is something we have got to accept but from our perspective, we need to ensure that we provide the most basic of safety elements. One of the biggest things that we have got to address is our car. There are plenty of websites to help you buy the perfect car within your budget, but we must remember that, as parents, we have to get into the habit of researching and see if these vehicles can truly stand the test of time. We hear so many horror stories about car crashes and the like but what we can do is get rid of our sports vehicle and trade it in for something a bit more sturdy. This is the first thing that we can control and after a while, when it comes to finding the right baby seat, as well as the safest prams, safety becomes second nature.

Learning The Art Of Common Sense

You may never have had a pet and all of a sudden, you’ve got to be the sensible one, and this means that learning the art of common sense is not an easy journey. But part of becoming a parent means that we learn by our mistakes. While there are some things that may seem obvious to everyone else, like saving money, it may not come so easily to you. The most important lesson we can learn, especially in the lead up to the birth, is remembering that we are responsible for something more important than ourselves. Common sense is partly to do with looking at what skills you may or may not have, but it’s also about asking others for their opinion. Some people are very ill-prepared to become a parent and it can be obvious to everybody apart from ourselves. But this doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t have children ever! What we can do is learn how to be a better version of ourselves and the great thing is that now there are so many different resources out there to help us acquire those parental skills that we are able to get some semblance of common sense.

Understanding How To Be In A Relationship With Compromise

Apart from the lack of sleep, one of the biggest shocks to the system for any parent, when the baby comes along, is learning how to compromise. You are pushed to your wit’s end and you are going to feel like you’re not able to do it or because this baby has been crying for what seems like days. So, what do you do? You start to take it out on the other person. And when we’re in a relationship with someone, we have to remember that compromise is one of those essential components. But learning how to do it when we don’t have our best judgment is a very difficult thing to do. Partly, it is to do with learning how to hold your tongue but it’s also about remembering that you are a team working for the benefit of this child. The first six months are the toughest and partly it’s about riding the storm out but it’s also ensuring that you are able to gather those essential coping skills between the two of you. This is what will help you well during the tough times. Because we’ve been so inherently selfish up to this point, learning how to let things go is a fantastic skill that anybody can have.

Realizing That There’s Something More Important Than You

Some men can’t cope with the idea of being a parent because it requires giving so much of themselves over. But when you see your baby for the first time, it’s one of those moments where you realize that there is something more important than you for once. Because we end up having to care for this little thing that we’ve been so scared about meeting, we have built ourselves up into such a state of worry that it all melts away. Yes, we hear about those people that just can’t cope so they have to run away but when we start to realize that there’s something that needs us it’s a case of stepping up to the plate or running away. When we realize there is something more important than us this is what gives us a meaning to life. You finally start to wade through all the pointless things in your life, whether it’s personal possessions or silly little habits, and they all become part of the old version of you.

It is one hell of a journey and while it’s a shock to the system we must remember that as we embark on this journey of parenthood that we will make mistakes. We’re all human but we’ll get there.


Sarah Ghanem is a happy Muslimah who is passionate about modern, yet modest Islamic clothing for women. She is always on the lookout for the latest trends and styles, and she happily shares her ideas with readers from all over the world.

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