Promise rings date back to the sixteenth century, but they have become more and more popular as a serious step in a relationship. The meaning behind a promise ring is special and unique to each relationship, just as the promise ring itself is special and unique to each girl wearing it.

What is a promise ring?

A promise ring is a ring given to someone as a symbol of your love and commitment. Giving a promise is not an engagement, but it is a step towards getting engaged. Some people think that promise rings are superfluous, but the meaning behind them represents a beautiful step in a blossoming relationship.

A promise ring says that you intend to marry the person you’re giving the ring to. It says that you want to spend your whole life loving that one person. 

A promise ring vs. an engagement ring

Why give a promise ring instead of an engagement ring? Think of a promise ring as a placeholder for an engagement ring. Both rings symbolize the promise of a lifetime of love, but many people opt to start with a promise ring for several reasons. 

One argument in favor of a promise ring is budget. If you love someone, you want to give them the world. But sometimes your wallet isn’t always on board with that.  A promise ring is an ideal physical symbol of your devotion to your beloved if an engagement ring isn’t currently in your budget. 

Many people also opt for a promise ring if the timing just isn’t quite right for an engagement. Young couples often give promise rings because of this fact. If you’re not ready for a full engagement, a promise ring is a great alternative for you to still show her that you love her and that you’re committed to her. An engagement, although a special time in a relationship, can also be a taxing time. Traditionally, an engagement kick-starts the planning and preparation for a wedding. If it isn’t the right time for you and your girlfriend to be engaged, a promise ring is the perfect way to go.

When and how should I give a promise ring?

A promise ring is not an engagement ring, but it does represent a deeper level of commitment and devotion than a typical “dating” relationship. Because of this, promise rings usually aren’t given until after a year of committed dating—at least. We also recommend having a serious discussion with your girlfriend before giving her a promise ring. You should talk about your relationship, your intentions, and your visions for the future to make sure that you both are on the same page before jumping into a commitment.

As far as how you should give a promise ring, many people choose a special occasion, like a birthday, holiday, or Valentine’s Day, to give a promise ring. Whatever you choose, make sure to make the event special and unique for your beloved, but don’t get down on one knee. Kneeling is usually only done when giving an engagement ring.

What should a promise ring look like?

Many factors go into choosing the best promise ring, including budget, your loved one’s unique style, and the meaning behind the ring. If your girlfriend is a traditionalist, opt for a classic gold diamond promise ring. Diamond rings are also a good choice if you’re looking to be more serious with your promise ring. A pavé diamond ring is sure to catch your loved one’s eye with its row of sparkling diamonds. An eternity diamond ring in white gold is also a timeless choice for a promise ring. 

Some people opt for a promise ring that doesn’t necessarily look like a traditional engagement ring. Gemstone rings are a great choice if you’re looking to go this route. A stunning blue sapphire ring has that perfect blend of special and elegant without looking like a traditional engagement ring. A ring with your beloved’s birthstone set into gold is a popular choice as well. For a more reserved look, select a set of minimalist, stackable rings in gold. White, yellow, or rose gold rings will match every outfit and occasion. 

How much should a promise ring cost?

Much like the style of the promise ring, the cost of the promise ring should depend on your budget, your styles, and why you’re giving the ring. However, you should spend less on a promise ring than you would on an engagement ring. Traditionally, an engagement ring should cost about two to three months’ salary, so you can expect to spend less than that on a promise ring. 

How should I wear a promise ring?

Promise rings are traditionally worn on the ring finger of your left hand. Once you get engaged or married, promise rings are then moved to the ring finger of your right hand. Some ladies choose to wear their promise ring on a chain around their neck. 

Whatever way you wear your promise ring, whatever style it is or gemstone it features, a promise ring is a unique symbol and celebration of your once-in-a-lifetime love.