I thought I was living my best sex life in my 20’s. They say hind sight is 20/20 and “they” couldn’t have been more right. I look back on that entire mess I call my 20’s, and here are 5 major reasons as to why sex is now so much better.

Body Insecurities

I spent too much time believing my insecurities about how my body appeared. I was so in my own head about what the guy thought of me, when truth be told, the guys my age would probably have screwed a keyhole if they would fit. Thank goodness for maturity. In my 40’s my body comes in a take it or leave it wrapper. I have a confidence about my body, because I’m comfortable in my own skin.

Little Enjoyment

I never truly enjoyed sex in my 20’s. It was a fun time, but orgasms were few and far between, and if I wasn’t satisfied, I never said that I wasn’t. I probably played a hand in some inflated egos that had no business being inflated, so to my fellow ladies, my sincerest apologies. I didn’t know how to communicate, when in my 20’s, that my needs weren’t being met. In my 40’s all I do is communicate, about why certain meetings are unnecessary, or why I think I’m being overcharged, all things that I don’t really want to talk about, so expressing to a guy how that is not quite the spot comes easy.

Knowing My Body

Okay, expressing myself in my 20’s was one issue, but actually knowing what my body responded to, was another entirely. Sex in my 20’s was filled with a lot of trying to figure it out. I did not know what worked for me and what didn’t. I know what works for me now, and I’m certainly open to try certain new things, but the decade of trial and error has been put to rest, and thankfully so.

Who to Have Sex With

If you weren’t in a relationship in your 20’s, then this was always the issue. I wanted to have sex, but guys at that age may not have been ready for a committed relationship. Then after you decide to have sex, there was way too much thought of whether he’s going to call. Thank God for my 40’s because, whether someone called or not, I still had to go to work that next day, and make sure my bills were paid. Basically, I’m saying being a fully-grown woman you realize that life goes on, and sex is so much better when you don’t have a million thought bubbles filled with “what if’s” floating over your head.

Knowing How to Connect

Sex is about more than just you, but try to explain that to a 20 year old.  Connection to the other individual is what takes sex to the next level. I didn’t fully understand that in my 20’s, but it is truly something to be appreciated at this phase of my life. Little did I know that the physical aspect of sex only simply scratched the surface.

Sex in my 40’s 

Finally, at the age of 40 we do what we like. Insecurities about our bodies, no longer an issue when it comes to sex. What our relationship status afterwards will be is no longer necessarily a criterion for us. Women are more empowered once we hit our 40’s. Other’s opinions of us no longer matter as much or if at all. We do what pleases us, and that especially goes for sex. So, all hail the 40’s. Ladies, we have arrived.